Today I deleted my dating profiles.
To bring this blog up to speed, it's been a year and a half since I last wrote a post; seeing as I dated 2 people last year it kind of fell by the wayside somewhat (being a blog about being single, after all!)
After the last relationship ended rather spectacularly (cue being dumped by text - you'd think the guy was nearer 17 than 47!) I took a little bit of a time-out, but over the last 6 months or so I've been back on (ok, I'll be honest here, a few) dating sites hoping to find a bit of romance.
Cue tonight. I am sitting watching CrazyHead on Netflix.
Nothing wrong with that I hear you cry - except for the fact that I matched with a guy on one of these sites and had discussed meeting up tonight. I have chosen not to go on a date, with a cute guy who knows the difference between your and you're, to watch a TV series on a streaming site that I could watch at any time!
To be fair it's a bloody good program.
But that's the thing; I've been down this road before - chatted to someone and backed out of a date, stopped chatting or whatever. I guess this is a confession of sorts - I've been guilty of 'ghosting'. Eesh.
So today I've taken the decision to delete my dating profiles and start this blog up again. My university course is due to start up again soon, and with the obvious inability to mentally commit to dating it seems like the right thing to do.
So here's to embracing single life again!
Let's roll!
Saturday, 15 September 2018
Tuesday, 30 January 2018
The 'Plus One' Conundrum
I've received an invite to my friend's wedding this year, in August.
Lovely time of year, it's in Devon as well, so I'm really looking forward to it!
For the first time in my life though I've had an invite with a plus 1 on it! I know, I know, I'm 36 (nearly) so how could this possibly be the first invite with a +1 I've ever received? Well technically it's not. The first non-family wedding I went to was that of my best friend, I was already dating when the invites went out, so my fiancé was naturally included. For reasons, we split up the night before and he didn't actually end up coming to the wedding anyway.
Subsequent weddings I've been invited to have been more, how would you put it, "reception only" or "just me" invites as I'm usually to be found sans-partner, so this is the first time I've really had to navigate the plus-1 gauntlet.
At the moment I'm undecided on whether to tick the plus-1 option. I know that the likelihood of finding someone I care for enough to have a permanent record of at one of my best friends' weddings, within the next 7 months, is fairly minimal. If I did find someone, it's a risk having only dated them for what would have been quite a short time. On the other hand, my friend is not local to me and we don't have common connections, so it would be nice to invite a friend along to keep me company.
So that is my dilemma. Mind you, navigating a wedding as where you don't know anyone would make for a better blog post... maybe I should suffer for my art!
Toodles!
F
Lovely time of year, it's in Devon as well, so I'm really looking forward to it!
For the first time in my life though I've had an invite with a plus 1 on it! I know, I know, I'm 36 (nearly) so how could this possibly be the first invite with a +1 I've ever received? Well technically it's not. The first non-family wedding I went to was that of my best friend, I was already dating when the invites went out, so my fiancé was naturally included. For reasons, we split up the night before and he didn't actually end up coming to the wedding anyway.
Subsequent weddings I've been invited to have been more, how would you put it, "reception only" or "just me" invites as I'm usually to be found sans-partner, so this is the first time I've really had to navigate the plus-1 gauntlet.
At the moment I'm undecided on whether to tick the plus-1 option. I know that the likelihood of finding someone I care for enough to have a permanent record of at one of my best friends' weddings, within the next 7 months, is fairly minimal. If I did find someone, it's a risk having only dated them for what would have been quite a short time. On the other hand, my friend is not local to me and we don't have common connections, so it would be nice to invite a friend along to keep me company.
So that is my dilemma. Mind you, navigating a wedding as where you don't know anyone would make for a better blog post... maybe I should suffer for my art!
Toodles!
F
Saturday, 14 October 2017
Absence!
After a long absence due to unforseen coupledom, I am now officially back on the singleness files!
For someone who is used to long periods of non-dating, this last year has been quite strange, having dated not once, but twice! Needless to say though, it's hard to maintain a blog about experiencing life as a single gal when you're not!
Here's to many more blog posts, navigating the world of meeting people, socialising, and squeezing every last drop of fun from the experience of being single!
mwah!
Friday, 23 September 2016
Fur (or Body Hair)
One of my "friends" on Facebook (you know, the ones you used to know at school, have no contact with other than seeing the odd post and hitting the 'like' button) decided it was appropriate to take a picture of an unsuspecting woman on the tube and shame her for not shaving her arm pits.
The comments that followed, from both men and women, ranged from (and I'm paraphrasing here) "oh my god, is that a WOMAN?" to "that's disgusting"...
There are so many things wrong with this that I can't get my head around it:
1) After millions of years the human body has still not evolved to the point of being body-hair free, nature knows best; if you say armpit (or any other body hair) is unhealthy then please feel free to leave this blog and never return, preferably without leaving a comment!
2) If it's "disgusting", why aren't men encouraged to shave their armpits, when women are frowned upon and publicly shamed if they don't?
3) It's HAIR... it's just hair. Hair; you know, like the stuff that grows on your head; the stuff some people spend over £50 getting cut, coloured and styled, panic over when it goes grey, CRY OVER when they start to lose it!
4) It's that woman's prerogative what she chooses to do - it's her body.
5) Snapping a photograph of someone when they're completely unaware of it and posting it on a social media platform in order to shame someone is a pretty low thing to do.
As a single person I have to say that this post really struck a chord with me; I have days when I put makeup on, I have days when I don't; I have days when I style my hair properly, I have days when I don't (this is beginning to sound like the lyrics to "Sunscreen"); I have days, weeks, months even, when I don't shave my legs (OMG, right?!) or my armpits (SHOCK HORROR). A lot of people will think that the reason I don't do this is because I am single, some people among you will probably state that it's the REASON I am single!
I don't subscribe to the idea of daily personal grooming... because it's boring, and tedious, and it's ten minutes (or more!) of my day I can be doing something else like studying for my degree, having a coffee, chatting to friends, writing a blog post.
I do worry that the fact I don't shave from the neck downwards every 5 minutes (yes it's an over-exaggeration, but "I'm worth it...") might affect how someone might feel about me if they ever saw me in the buff... I have been in one serious relationship, and one fairly casual one where I didn't even entertain the idea that my body hair might have an impact on my love life - but now things feel a lot different; maybe it's because I'm getting older.
However, do I really want to be with someone who puts that much importance on something that they themselves may or may not do?
There will be more posts on this in future, this is a long-running internal debate for me; suffice it to say I will be honest here and admit that I have both unfriended this person on Facebook, and shaved my armpits...
Yours, hypocritically...
The comments that followed, from both men and women, ranged from (and I'm paraphrasing here) "oh my god, is that a WOMAN?" to "that's disgusting"...
There are so many things wrong with this that I can't get my head around it:
1) After millions of years the human body has still not evolved to the point of being body-hair free, nature knows best; if you say armpit (or any other body hair) is unhealthy then please feel free to leave this blog and never return, preferably without leaving a comment!
2) If it's "disgusting", why aren't men encouraged to shave their armpits, when women are frowned upon and publicly shamed if they don't?
3) It's HAIR... it's just hair. Hair; you know, like the stuff that grows on your head; the stuff some people spend over £50 getting cut, coloured and styled, panic over when it goes grey, CRY OVER when they start to lose it!
4) It's that woman's prerogative what she chooses to do - it's her body.
5) Snapping a photograph of someone when they're completely unaware of it and posting it on a social media platform in order to shame someone is a pretty low thing to do.
As a single person I have to say that this post really struck a chord with me; I have days when I put makeup on, I have days when I don't; I have days when I style my hair properly, I have days when I don't (this is beginning to sound like the lyrics to "Sunscreen"); I have days, weeks, months even, when I don't shave my legs (OMG, right?!) or my armpits (SHOCK HORROR). A lot of people will think that the reason I don't do this is because I am single, some people among you will probably state that it's the REASON I am single!
I don't subscribe to the idea of daily personal grooming... because it's boring, and tedious, and it's ten minutes (or more!) of my day I can be doing something else like studying for my degree, having a coffee, chatting to friends, writing a blog post.
I do worry that the fact I don't shave from the neck downwards every 5 minutes (yes it's an over-exaggeration, but "I'm worth it...") might affect how someone might feel about me if they ever saw me in the buff... I have been in one serious relationship, and one fairly casual one where I didn't even entertain the idea that my body hair might have an impact on my love life - but now things feel a lot different; maybe it's because I'm getting older.
However, do I really want to be with someone who puts that much importance on something that they themselves may or may not do?
There will be more posts on this in future, this is a long-running internal debate for me; suffice it to say I will be honest here and admit that I have both unfriended this person on Facebook, and shaved my armpits...
Yours, hypocritically...
Tuesday, 20 September 2016
First Post Nerves
Oh nerves, tosh! Who am I kidding?
So a little introduction to life as it stands - I'm just about to move house (eek) and have been spending most of my time over the last month painting; without a significant other half to help out I have been relying on help from my dad and making use of the free tutorials on things like decorating in its many guises. I've actually found painting quite therapeutic especially when you've had rather a busy day at work, I'm finding it quite zen!
One of the challenges (one I'll probably be blogging about a lot) is the fact I'm only five foot tall - so there will be many interesting moments as I struggle to reach things on the top shelf of the cupboard, and purchase many steps and ladders"
Well that about sums me up; when I'm not climbing on kitchen surfaces (great fun (don't try it at home)) trying to reach the high shelves I shall be out re-claiming the single life as something brilliant and fun!
And let's begin...
So a little introduction to life as it stands - I'm just about to move house (eek) and have been spending most of my time over the last month painting; without a significant other half to help out I have been relying on help from my dad and making use of the free tutorials on things like decorating in its many guises. I've actually found painting quite therapeutic especially when you've had rather a busy day at work, I'm finding it quite zen!
One of the challenges (one I'll probably be blogging about a lot) is the fact I'm only five foot tall - so there will be many interesting moments as I struggle to reach things on the top shelf of the cupboard, and purchase many steps and ladders"
Well that about sums me up; when I'm not climbing on kitchen surfaces (great fun (don't try it at home)) trying to reach the high shelves I shall be out re-claiming the single life as something brilliant and fun!
And let's begin...
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